025 Kim Elzaibak on Healing from the Inside Out

by reeger on April 27, 2014

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IN HER 44 YEARS ON THIS PLANET, KIM ELZAIBAK HAS FACED SOME CHALLENGES.
Where many might be defeated, Kim has overcome.

LISTEN TO HER TELL HER STORY OF:

  • A childhood caught in the cycle of abuse.
  • Her 20’s struggling with eating disorders, obesity, depression.
  • Her 30’s struggling with one gastric band, then having that one replaced with another gastric band, and then finally converting to gastric sleeve.
  • The pivotal moment in her surgeons office when she expressed that she did not think the gastric sleeve was working and her surgeon told her    “there will be no more surgeries for you.” 
  • How this statement forced Kim, once and for all, to begin the inward journey of healing she so desperately needed but up until that moment had never had the courage to deeply face.


CRITICAL LESSONS KIM HAS LEARNED ALONG HER HEALING JOURNEY:

  • There is no meaning to any event until you choose to give it a meaning.
  • We are all 100% responsible for how we choose to live our lives and react to external events.
  • The importance of surrounding yourself with people who love, support, and share your same values.
  • Be curious about yourself: Who you are and what you want for your life.
  • Be observant of the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that might be holding you back. Question their power over you.
  • Know that you can choose to reframe your perspective on those feelings and set yourself free.
  • The importance of saying “Yes!” to yourself.
  • That you must keep showing up for yourself and your healing process.
  • The power of a positive, optimistic view of life and your place in it.
  • The importance of speaking to yourself and those around with kindness and love.
  • The importance of Mindfulness
  • Let go of a Failure mindset. There is no such thing as failure. Instead, embrace the power of getting Feedback.
  • Use the feedback life gives you as an opportunity to learn, grow, and pivot as needed until you get the results you seek.
  • Allow yourself to really love yourself.
  • You have a wonderful self worth.
  • Allow others to see your self worth, your beauty, don’t hide it away.

I can’t conclude this episode without acknowledging Kim’s courage to tell her story, all of her story, including her history of sexual abuse and suicide attempts.

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention  reports an estimated one in seven children in the US have been the victims of abuse, whether that abuse was neglect, sexual, physical, or emotional. There are no exact numbers to connect how many people have suffered abuse as a child, and then go on to develop eating disorders, depression, obesity, and even become suicidal. But the connection is known to exist.

Kim is but just one example. And sadly she is far from alone. If you are someone who is struggling with similar pain, take Kim’s story of triumph as your example and know that you too can heal, learn, grow, move on, and claim your life. As Kim did.
And also as Kim did, reach out for help, and reach within as well.

IMPORTANT LINKS
Kim Elzaibak
Kim Elzaibak on Facebook
National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse 
Australian Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse 

You can email me at reeger@weightlosssurgerypodcast.com
Follow me on twitter @preegerc

Please share this episode with those you think might benefit.

In Peace and with Connection,

Reeger

 

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Heather Wilhite May 9, 2014 at 4:27 pm

Reeger,

I’m so glad you told me about the podcast in the office today. I downloaded it and listened on my drive home. There were tears flowing down my face while I was listening to your interview with Kim. As an emotional eater for many years, Kim’s story resonated deeply with me. This is powerful stuff. Thanks to you and to Kim for sharing her story. Keep up the fine work.

Heather

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reeger May 12, 2014 at 4:34 am

Dear Heather,
You are so very welcome! There is power in story, power and connection and lessons to be learned if only we take the time to tell our stories and to listen. Thank you for listening and letting me know you were moved.

Until we see each other again…
Sincerely,
Reeger

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Diana May 24, 2014 at 11:49 pm

This has being a very strong interview! Kim you are a very BRAVE lady! From very far away, all the way from Costa Rica, I send you my love! YOU ARE AWESOME!
Reeger you are amazing, all topics I love! Take care, xoxo

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reeger May 25, 2014 at 12:00 am

Di,
I agree. Kim is very brave, very courageous, and we all can learn from the lessons she has to teach. I, like you and anyone else who hears her story, simply wish that she never, ever had to go through the traumas that she did as part of her journey. I am sure Kim would agree, but I think she would also say that in life we often do not choose what happens to us, but we do choose each and every day how we are going to act and react.
Kindly, Reeger

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Kim May 25, 2014 at 3:09 am

Dear Heather & Diana,

Thank you SO much for your lovely comments. You have no idea how much they mean to me! They’ve really touched my heart!! I chose to come out and tell my story because there are many, many people who struggle with regain after surgery and in many cases there are deep underlying issues that keeps driving some of our behaviours that we don’t always recognize on the surface. As Reeger said above, we do not always choose what happens to us but the meaning we give those events can be very powerful and can either work for us to take us forward or ultimately hold us back. I just hope that anyone who has heard my story who may have experienced any form of trauma physically or emotionally in their lives, that this might be enough to entice them to look deeper.

Again… a huge heartfelt THANK YOU!!

Kim xx

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